Ever heard any of these priceless quotes from your fam?

“….so… how long are you going to do this acting thing?”

“…what have I seen you in?”

“…what you’re doing is really great, but when will you start making money?”

if you’re like me, you have a few family members who just… don’t get it.

My uncle once told me I should just “get on Saturday Night Live! That show is funny, and your career will take off!” He even went so far as to claim that HE should be my manager, because he would know exactly what to do. (eye roll)

My friend’s mom asked her why she wasn’t in the film Crazy Rich Asians when it came out. I mean… she’s Asian, so obviously that should be easy, right?


As actors who are diligently traveling the (sometimes long) road to a sustainable artistic career, we know it’s not always easy to get these kinds of opportunities.

But do our family members have any idea what an actor’s path to a high-profile show like SNL or a huge film like Crazy Rich Asians is like? Nope!

So how do you react?

Do you roll your eyes and mumble a lame excuse? Or get pissed off and try your best to ignore them? Or smile weakly and then feel bad about yourself for a week?

You’re not alone, but there is a another way to handle this! In fact, I have a few suggestions for you in this video, so check them out below!

Do you ever feel that talking about your acting career with your family can be a little… awkward? They’re not IN the industry so they just don’t… GET IT, right? Learn how to make sharing your career with your family SO much easier with these helpful communication tips from @ActResourceGuru @Ajarae!#ActorsLife #CommunicationTips #ShareClick to Tweet This Episode of #GuruTips!

I hope these tips help. USUALLY our family simply wants what’s best for us. If we are willing to bring them in and educate them a bit on our process, we can avoid a lot of annoying and awkward conversations. And believe me, they’ll love your updates. We talk about exactly how to craft those in the ARG Pro Membership.

Now I’d like to hear from YOU! Share your experiences with your family in the comments below! Bonus points if you have another tip that has worked for you.

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Ajarae Coleman | Acting Resource Guru



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Ajarae Coleman is a working actress living in Los Angeles. You can see her on shows like ABC’s SCANDAL, REVENGE, PRIVATE PRACTICE, and THE CATCH, CBS’s THE McCARTHYS, 2 BROKE GIRLS, and NCIS: NEW ORLEANS, NBC’s DAYS OF OUR LIVES, TNT’s PERCEPTION, I'M SORRY on Netflix, and more. Ajarae founded Acting Resource Guru (ARG) in 2012 to give actors practical steps to book more work and take ownership of their careers. In 2020, Ajarae launched The Table, an exclusive online membership for actors who crave an artistic life that goes beyond just booking gigs. They are ready to make a greater impact, which looks like building communities of collaborators, creating their own opportunities, and developing residual income streams. Ajarae believes that actors play a huge role in bringing forth a reality where every being on the planet is safe and valued, and The Table empowers actors to claim their seat. Join the Interest List at ClaimASeat.com to be notified when the doors open for new members.


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